You make a decision and you know others disagree. You worry, and become concerned they judge you because of your decision. In fact, it occupies a lot of your thinking time. You veer between being angry at their ‘assumed judgement’ and trying to work out how to get them around to your way of thinking. And, if you can’t do that, at the very last resort you want to get them to respect your decision.
How much time in your head does all that take? How do those thoughts make you feel?
The only judgement that should occupy us is ours. True freedom comes when we make decisions based on our values system and accept that others may have made a different decision. We ACCEPT that people think and behave differently and we move on.
Spend your time making decisions that support your value system, and then just be you.
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Stephen is one of the Ivy House Alumni, and when he completed the Programme he made a commitment to himself: take on and conquer the Brighton Half Marathon.
The game of doing the right thing on the surface, whilst at the same time making your real feelings perfectly clear, is as common as it is destructive.