What we think
Ivy House was born
Overcoming limiting beliefs: an Ivy House alumni story
Stephen is one of the Ivy House Alumni, and when he completed the Programme he made a commitment to himself: take on and conquer the Brighton Half Marathon.
Do you play
the two-faced game?
The game of doing the right thing on the surface, whilst at the same time making your real feelings perfectly clear, is as common as it is destructive.
Do you tell little lies?
Susan regularly lied to avoid conflict or disagreement. ‘Not really lies at all. Small lies to avoid disappointing people’.
How good are your conversations?
More than anything else, it is the quality of conversations that impacts how we feel, what we do and the results we get. Why then are we SO bad at them?
Change the script
The love of your life has finished with you. They walked out the door and that’s it. Over.
What does this mean?
What to do when it all goes to hell
Whether we like it or not – and what’s there to like – things are not going to go our way some of the time. It’s inevitable and impossible to avoid. So, what’s there to do?
Confidence is a choice you make
CEOs of major organisations, bestselling authors and hugely successful entrepreneurs all regularly let me into their guilty secret – they suffer from a lack of confidence.
You are your behaviour. Choose wisely
Whoever you think you are, the world decides based on the behaviour it sees.
Do you really know your values?
Most people don’t have a clue.
Which is a bit of a problem because it is our values that anchor us. When we feel uneasy with something it is usually because we are violating a value in some way.
Don’t you just love a good drama?
We’re not short of a crisis or two to satisfy our need for drama. You can get a quick fix from the latest celebrity scandal, the missed penalty, the disgraced politician.
How do you feel when others disapprove?
You make a decision and you know others disagree. You worry, and become concerned they judge you because of your decision. In fact, it occupies a lot of your thinking time.
Which conversations are you avoiding?
Think for a moment about a conversation you really should have – with a friend that upset you, a team member that repeatedly under-delivers, a partner you don’t love any more. These conversations often are difficult. And sometimes they’re not.
Become the person you want to be
Find out about how the Ivy House Programme is helping incredible young people reach their full potential.
Are you memorable?
What makes you unique? Great leaders embrace their uniqueness, their humanness – and they are memorable because of it.
Hold your opinion lightly
When did someone’s opinion start to get confused with fact?
Just because you think something doesn’t make it right. I hate to be the one to tell you but your particular lens on the world isn’t the holy one – the one through which all truth is seen.
Are you scared of honest conversations?
One of the most profound things you can ever learn to do is connect with what you are thinking and feeling. The next is to learn to share these thoughts and feelings with the people that matter – lovers, friends, bosses, team members.
The power of vulnerability in the professional world
Everyone suffers from confidence issues at some point in their lives – a feeling of being different or not good enough. But what would it be like if, every day, you had to face people’s judgements and preconceptions because of something entirely out of your control?
If not you, then who?
There are organisations and industries where dysfunctional behaviour has become so accepted and challenge so unacceptable that no one calls it out anymore. But there is a way out of this.
The plague of institutional blindness
I have a couple of soap box subjects and institutional blindness is one of them.
Creating organisations where high potentials thrive
Organisations invest heavily on finding brilliant new recruits bursting with enthusiasm and potential, ready to make their mark.
You may be high potential now but will you stay the course?
The desire to make your mark and show what you’re made of is a powerful driver.
Creating the leaders of the future
Hear members of Ivy House from organisations such as Google, The Economist, Heinz and ITSU share their experience of our programme.
A few months ago, I was coaching the leader of a global company. The subject of the session had turned to trustworthiness – or rather the lack of it. He came back at my enquiry with full force. He was completely trustworthy… how dare I ask?
The world is full of bright and determined young people who are ready to make a start in the world. They all want to make their mark and be the next big thing.
So why is it that some will succeed whilst others will end up settling?
What do people say about you when you’re not in the room?
Does it matter? Probably, but not for the reasons you may think.
Talent is useless if you don’t have impact
“Why should we choose you over someone else?”
This is one of the most common questions asked in job interviews. And it’s totally stupid – impossible to answer, because you don’t know who else has applied.
The 3 things young people really need to fulfil their potential (and it’s not A grades)
When you’re 16, it can be hard to imagine that you’ll ever achieve success.
The Ivy House experience
‘Challenging, inspirational and inspiring’
Meet some of the Members of Ivy House as they share their experience of being on the Ivy House Programme.
Own your life
Having a vision for your life doesn’t mean having the whole thing mapped out. But successful people own their life. They are the creators of their own life
You have freedom. Are you using it?
Common to all people is the desire for freedom. The freedom to choose the life that we want, to be the person that we want to be, to do the work that inspires us and to surround ourselves with the people that we love and who love us.
Look in the mirror. Who do you see? Who is that person looking back at you? What do they dream of? What makes them smile?